One thing for sure, when we experience stress and anxiety, it doesn’t feel good.
Many of us just want to get rid of those feelings… because let’s face it, if it doesn’t feel good, it would make sense to want to change it. Right?
But wait: What if these emotions serves a purpose?
Feelings of stress and anxiety is our body’s way of alerting us to something that we should pay attention to… when it's working as it should.
One way to look at our emotions is that it’s part of our internal guidance system that helps us to survive. In other words, ALL of our emotions serves a purpose.
Once upon a time when there was a predator chasing us, the feeling of stress would alert us to make a run for it. To survive.
And while having to run from a predator is no longer a reality for many of us, the same internal stress system gets activated at work when there’s a deadline or having to deal with an unpleasant colleague or boss, or at home when your spouse is mad at you or when your kids are unhappy with you.
Based on any number of factors, however, what unfortunately happens to many of us, is that the warning system has gone awry.
The internal warning system has learned to become overly sensitized to any or specific kinds of stressors, so much so that the warning system finds itself constantly being tripped… which can perhaps be explained as anxiety.
It could be that it constantly feels like something isn’t quite right.
Or a sense that something bad can happen at any moment.
Or a feeling that there are no choices.
Or those nagging thoughts that completely take over for hours on end.
Feelings of unease, unsettledness, on red alert, feeling like you can jump out of your own skin at any time…
So while it definitely doesn’t feel great to be stressed or anxious, it is our internal system doing its job. Telling us something is off.
But consistent anxiety is when something feels off about somethings that can maybe, possibly, potentially be off.
Now that we have some understanding as to why we experience stress and anxiety, the larger question might be, Is there something that can be done about it?
The good news is, while the specific answer itself can be different for different folks, it is possible to manage, if not, figure out ways to turn the volume waaaaaaay down on these feelings.
I am very familiar with anxiety, my own and through my years of work supporting others in their unique and individual struggles with stress and anxiety.
Because of this, I am passionate about sharing and helping as many people possible to have a better understanding of anxiety and to spread hope that it can be manageable and better.
But here's where I need your help: If you haven't already, please share in the short survey above about what you would most like to learn about dealing with anxiety.
Your feedback will be crucial so that I know what to focus on to create resources that will be most helpful for you.
And most importantly, I hope you learn that you're not alone and that sharing your experiences can be part of the process for you to know that things can be different.
If you are currently experiencing high levels of stress and anxiety or in crisis, please reach out to one of the resources listed here.
Mio Yokoi is a Registered Psychotherapist, Certified NeurOptimal Neurofeedback Trainer and Total Wellness Coach. There was a time when the world felt like a brick wall with few options. With curiosity, dedication and hard work to cultivating her best self, the world now feels like her playground, and with her growth experience and training has been supporting others to thrive since 2009. Learn more about her here.